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Just Say No: 5 Smart Ways to Disagree with Others

Posted on  17 April 12  by 

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If market researchers are really doing their jobs right, they should be spending a lot of time saying “no.”

A couple of summers ago I asked whether research departments were too nice, and judging from the popularity of the post we might benefit from some training on disagreement.  A recent article on CBS MoneyWatch outlines five smart ways to disagree with your boss, and I think that these lessons translate nicely to help you take a stand with anyone in your organization:

  1. Ask clarifying questions-sometimes a well-placed question or two can help guide someone to the realization that their plan isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. 
  2. Pick your time and place-know your audience and pick the time that will work best for them.  And of course, avoid public places to make sure your feedback isn’t taken out of context.
  3. Accentuate the value to the team-phrase your feedback as an improvement that will help the group—lead with the value that your suggestions will create.
  4. Speak up early and often-if you have provided feedback consistently you will not be viewed as defensive or negative when you have a counter-opinion to share.
  5. Ask permission to provide feedback-for those with a more formal relationship, asking if it’s ok for you to share some feedback sets the tone for the conversation to come.

What do you think?  What are your favorite tactics for sharing tough feedback with your business partners?

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  1. Lisa
    on May 29, 2013
    Respond

    Frame the “issue” around trade-offs, risks, and contingencies to de-escalate the conversation and provide choices.

    If a “game-changing” well thought out insight, give credit to the co-worker who helped vet.

    Understand that a leader’s role is to be an umbrella..and survive the occasional hail storm – which does pass.

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